Have you ever heard about how relationships go through “dry spells”? Or if you are in a relationship, have you ever experienced one of these times? The relationship may just feel kind of stale. It kind of feels like nothing exciting is happening or the spark has gone out. If that’s you – I’m here to tell you not to worry. It can be hard to get out of your comfort zone and your normal routine. In fact, it is pretty well known that nearly 40% of couples married for the first time eventually get divorced.
So how do you and your partner stay in a place that is healthy and connected? It can become so easy in this day and age to be stagnant so you have to change it up. A few studies that have been completed in the past few decades have found the same thing time and again – when couples get out of their comfort zone and try new and exciting things, they have healthier and more satisfying relationships.
So how do you do that? Try something out of your comfort zone and watch your relationship improve.
Take A Class Together
When you and your partner take a new class together you are both put in an unfamiliar situation.Whether you choose a workout class, a cooking class or an art class, it is a place that you both are learning something new. Being in a new situation like this can reignite some of the same emotions you and your partner felt at the beginning of your relationship. When we feel certain emotions it can take us back to a time when we felt those previously. This is just one of the ways you can get out of your comfort zone and reconnect with your partner.
Traveling to a new place is very similar to trying a new activity. It can reignite the same emotions of being in a new and exciting environment. Being in a new place gives you and your partner the ideal setting to try new things and get out of your comfort zone. Research on how couples stay connected found that after a couple completed what they identified as an ‘exciting task’, they saw a positive change in how happy they were with each other.
Do Anything Outside Your Comfort Zone
Maybe traveling together or taking classes together are not so different for you. Perhaps you do those things already. Find something that will push you out of your comfort zone! Maybe you’d choose something more extreme like skydiving, cliff jumping or maybe just make a change in your routine – happy hour after work or spontaneous date night, anyone? The research found that as long as the activity you and your partner did together was out of your comfort zone and routine, your relationship quality will show improvement.
Now you’re loaded with the information and the research, so it’s up to you and your partner to push yourselves. It’s time to try something new! Don’t let boredom in your relationship be an excuse to not doing anything differently. Let it be a catalyst to a better and more positive life together. Why not start out with me at our Luxe Couples Retreat? It is a place full of education, romance and adventure – where you can try new things and work on your relationship all at once! It also could be a great Christmas gift to your spouse!