After getting engaged, it’s natural to have so many thoughts on your mind. There is excitement, planning, how to announce to family and friends and spending time with your marriage with your new fiancé! You may or may not have considered premarital counseling and education. I’m sure even if you have, it’s not at the top of your to-do list....
Arguing about money in marriage is common. Forbes published a study conducted by the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysis citing financial stress is the third leading cause of divorces. This statistic is definitely alarming but financial strain doesn’t need to destroy your relationship. In fact, you can avoid conflict over money by having a few simple (ongoing) conversations. My friend recently...
As a therapist and human being, there are a few things I know to be true about people in relationships. One is that we all need acceptance, love, and security. The second is that no one is perfect at providing those things all of the time. Essentially, we all screw up at some point, and have to figure out how...
As a good friend of a military wife, I’ve seen her spend many periods of time away from her husband. I am all too familiar with the struggle of a having to manage your relationship over long distance. Trying to stay connected, but also trying to be present where you are. Dealing with jealousy or concern because you can’t be...
At some point in your life, it’s pretty much guaranteed you will experience conflict, hurt, or be let down by someone you care about. You will also hurt someone else or let them down, even if it’s done unintentionally. Sometimes hurt and conflict occur in smaller ways like forgetting a special occasion or having an argument over who should do...
Congratulations, you are engaged! Now comes the fun part where you get to plan your day to be exactly as you and your fiancé want it to go…or do you? As with any life transition, many friends and family will offer advice and suggestions to help you plan your special day. But who’s opinion carries the most weight? What do...
Have you ever seen those romantic engagement photos or videos of creative proposals? They’re all over my social media—two people in love, diving into commitment for a happily ever after. Their posts make me feel warm and happy. Good for them, happily ever after – isn’t that what we all want? Unfortunately, there is a time between engagement and the...
I remember when I was in middle school, dreaming about the day I would get engaged and the perfect wedding I would have. When you’re 10 you don’t understand that getting engaged is not all about the ring, flowers and fancy wedding gifts. When a couple chooses to become engaged they are agreeing to be the other’s life partner, emotionally...
You’d be surprised at how often I hear a client say, “I just assumed,” “I thought,” “I know how my partner is” or “It’s so obvious.” These are key indicators people are operating on assumptions rather than fact and understanding. Assumptions can be dangerous to relationships. We assume we know what someone else is thinking, trying to say or what...
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