Happy Wife, Happy Life: Celebrate Wife Appreciation Day
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, happy wife, happy life but have you ever heard of Wife Appreciation Day? Turns out it’s a real thing. Of course every couple is different and within that each person has their own likes and dislikes.
One of my personal pet peeves is dirty dishes. My husband is well aware of this, and in our first few months of marriage seemed to either ignore or be completely unaware of my distain of a full sink. The thing was that he thought it would be more efficient to load the dishwasher in bulk rather than one at a time. However, as I continued to express my wish for a clean kitchen, he finally caught on. We now have a beautifully empty sink most days. The dishes really aren’t a big deal here but rather the fact that my husband put his method aside in order to show me love and respect.
What do the experts have to say?
In a recent study conducted at Rutgers University, researchers analyzed the quality of marital relationships of 394 couples. On average, the couples were married for 39 years. The results showed that when a wife is happy with her husband, she will do a lot more for her husband and he will report a higher rate of life satisfaction. In contrast, if the wife is not happy, she is much more likely to be confrontational and display aggressive tendencies. See? Happy wife, happy life.
8 Ways to Celebrate Wife Appreciation Day (or a random Tuesday)
To all of you men out there, how does your wife feel the love? Gifts? Acts of service? Quality time? Adventures? Below I’ve outlined some great ideas to fit all of these and make your wife feel special:
Breakfast in bed.
Start the morning with breakfast in bed. But don’t forget if she prefers pancakes over waffles or vice versa. Such a mistake could get you in trouble (just kidding)!
Thank her for all she’s done and remind her how much you love her. Remember she’s not a mind reader. Verbalizing what you think she already knows can make a significant impact on her day.
Catch her off guard with a romantic gesture. Surprise her at work with a bouquet of her favorite flowers or splurge on that necklace she’s been eying.
Plan date night for Wife Appreciation Day.
Take her out to the restaurant that she’s always wanted to go to but you thought was too expensive. The night could be priceless. Or get creative and take her to a place you’ve never tried before. Look up local events and hire a babysitter for the night. Dress up and enjoy kid-free time together at a play or concert.
Spend a night in.
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Dessert is always a winner.
Reconnect after a busy week over a bowl of her favorite ice cream. Don’t underestimate the power of simply snuggling on the couch as you watch a classic comedy or even better, a romance flick.
Give her a break.
Give her the gift of time to herself. Prepare a bubble bath with candles and her favorite music or book. Prepare dinner and watch the kids or take care of some errands while she has space to rejuvenate and decompress.
Offer her a massage.
Demonstrate your appreciate in a hands-on way. Practice your personal massage skills with a one-hour at-home treatment. Or if that’s not your thing, buy her a gift certificate for a local spa.
Wife Appreciation Day is an opportunity to go out of your way for the person you love most. Investing in your relationship, even with simple gestures, is never a waste of time. If you’re looking for additional reinforcement to restore, reconnect and revive your marriage, you may consider therapy or trying the activities in this book I often recommend for couples, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.